tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post6609916160367810740..comments2023-12-15T07:12:53.938-08:00Comments on Mama Sarahndipity: Therapy: It's All Fun & Games...sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01387145957769474838noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-2139769370243906662008-08-13T20:15:00.000-07:002008-08-13T20:15:00.000-07:00I have to tell you that, one night after about thr...I have to tell you that, one night after about three months of 45-minute naps (for me AND Keira), I told DH in tears, "I think we ruined our lives!" I laugh about it now, but at the time, I really thought so, and hated myself for it. Come to find out, when I finally admitted that to my aunt, she said, "Oh, a few weeks after we brought Steve home from the hospital, I cried to your uncle that we had to take him back and it was all a huge mistake!" Um, WHY doesn't anyone tell you that's a normal feeling?? Anyway, thanks for a great post, as always.Crystalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09921429377878920036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-5367677046596319202008-08-13T18:38:00.000-07:002008-08-13T18:38:00.000-07:00This is why I blog and read blogs. Right here. Com...This is why I blog and read blogs. Right here. Complete honesty about motherhood. Because as I like to say, it's not sunshine and rainbows streaming out of your ass 24 hours a day. It's hard and it's not instinctive and it's not rewarding some of the time.<BR/><BR/>I think you will find a way to handle Baby2. We all do. It will be hard at first, but once you get into the swing of things, you will forget you ever had just one.<BR/><BR/>For the record, it was never instant love for me either. It was more of an instant like, the grew into love.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465194403058080094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-42328038218569995312008-08-13T09:39:00.000-07:002008-08-13T09:39:00.000-07:00*nods head in agreement* The no-going-backness is ...*nods head in agreement* The no-going-backness is pretty overwhelming. Also, you weren't the only one who, in those first weeks of new motherhood, thought about who you could give or foster the baby to because you didn't think you could do it. It's hard to imagine thinking that now when my heart gets so filled up with love for our little guy.Avonleahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07207506579954260744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-25721908207277345502008-08-12T20:57:00.000-07:002008-08-12T20:57:00.000-07:00I have been there on the depression front... not P...I have been there on the depression front... not PPD, but clinical depression for several years... and it is not fun. But depression of any kind is treatable, and why should a case of PPD keep you from having the family you desire??? It shouldn't! And being that you've been there before, you'll have more of an idea of what to watch for next time. Don't let her words discourage you, and I hope you explain to her so eloquently your reasons for wanting another one. I for one hope you do have another one, and soon.Beccihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02843445845439279244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-61272706862255476342008-08-12T09:04:00.000-07:002008-08-12T09:04:00.000-07:00I am always impressed by how wonderful you are wit...I am always impressed by how wonderful you are with Ethan. We all have our moments where we're not proud of how we handle our kids, but I think having a sense of humor about life and not taking yourself too seriously are two of the most important qualities to good parenting, and you guys are highly qualified. I am really hoping things work out for you guys. Also that you have a girl because we have lots of clothes for you!<BR/>love,<BR/>kitaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-29486309860633354542008-08-11T15:23:00.000-07:002008-08-11T15:23:00.000-07:00What a great post. I think women are sold the "lo...What a great post. I think women are sold the "love at first sight" story, and if we don't feel it so intensely right away, we feel there is something terribly wrong with us. I've been reading your blog for the last 2+ years (wow they grow so fast!) and you are such a funny person, a great writer and a wonderful mom. Ethan is really lucky to have you. So if you and your husband decide to have another, that will be a lucky babe as well. <BR/>The great thing about therapy is that it helps you really examine the tough questions and hopefully at least some of the time, come to real and satisfying answers.Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13583237871922530078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-57842703845858916082008-08-11T11:47:00.000-07:002008-08-11T11:47:00.000-07:00I so remember having all of the same feelings abou...I so remember having all of the same feelings about child #2 and the whole family thing. Now, almost 18 (and 16) years later, I wouldn't trade a moment of it. Okay so that's not completely true, I would give some moments back in a heartbeat! It's not always been easy, but I have two great young men who are not only best friends but are really fun. With each and every passing year I like being with them even more. <BR/><BR/>I also agree with ssu's post that God will not give you more than you can handle. Although at times, I have wished he didn't trust me quite so much! <BR/><BR/>Don't let anyone, especially some therapist you met for the first time, talk you out of the family you and hubby want!<BR/>You are great parents and your identities as such will just keep getting better!<BR/> <BR/><BR/>LizAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-14894752951463613592008-08-11T11:05:00.000-07:002008-08-11T11:05:00.000-07:00This is a great post! Im a fan of your blog and re...This is a great post! Im a fan of your blog and really can relate to your honesty... best of luck to you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-74197974514883512812008-08-11T09:12:00.000-07:002008-08-11T09:12:00.000-07:00Thank you so much for your post. I'm currently ba...Thank you so much for your post. I'm currently battling ppd and it really helps to see I'm not the only one and that things really do get better.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-69654808533514834472008-08-11T07:17:00.000-07:002008-08-11T07:17:00.000-07:00Well done, Well done, jolly good show!!! :-P You m...Well done, Well done, jolly good show!!! :-P You made me laugh, you made me cry.. I am glad you think that husband and I's (?) penchant for absconding with each others stories is hilarious..at least we amuse you.. just remember when it gets to be too much you can send them over to Tia Emi and tio Pete... and vice versa of course...quid pro quo Clarice...!!!! love ya<BR/>EEmihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15282933151450407557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-3289603485111730382008-08-11T06:18:00.000-07:002008-08-11T06:18:00.000-07:00It took me about 2 days to actually realize I was ...It took me about 2 days to actually realize I was a mom and AJU5 was born. I think some of it had to do with sleeping during the c-section and her being in the NICU, but still. I believe God won't give us more than we can handle, so when He thinks you are ready for number 2, you will get pregnant. Praying for you!AJU5's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-32328366675357999782008-08-11T04:25:00.000-07:002008-08-11T04:25:00.000-07:001) I think you actually DID read every book ever ...1) I think you actually DID read every book ever written on the subject of motherhood, if I remember correctly...<BR/><BR/>2) Just had this chat with my girls yesterday about having a second baby. Relayed to them how initially frightened I was that I wouldn't have any love left for another child, given how over the moon I was for Fourth Grader. Then tried to explain the miracle of exploding, multiplying love when that second child appears. Can't be explained. Just happens. And Fourth Grader almost went back to live the hospital several times during the first week.<BR/><BR/>3) Mind Body Shop? Is this a vengeful therapist that you rejected in favor of traditional methods? Wow.<BR/><BR/>Fabulous post.Tresshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00490428562354400570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-30349549819227418282008-08-10T22:44:00.000-07:002008-08-10T22:44:00.000-07:00You rock. This is a great post. Having two is so s...You rock. This is a great post. Having two is so so hard (I wish it weren't) but those amazing things you mention are already there. Baby O looks at her brother with total adoration--it's so satisfying to see that they already have their own relationship, separate from ours, and she is not even 4 months old. I also think you know what to look out for and that your lifestyle is already changed so much, so the adjustment might not be so terribly hard. Your a mom. Then you will be a mom. Go for it!KMWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03345570249725222608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-47204914776348179052008-08-10T20:03:00.000-07:002008-08-10T20:03:00.000-07:00Sarah, I would never EVER think of you as textbook...Sarah, I would never EVER think of you as textbook, and I sincerely mean that in the most positive manner.<BR/><BR/>Remember that every child is different and has their own quirks, cuteness, and conundrums to be overcome. So, if/when the E-man gets competition, the challenges will be more perplexing, and more interesting.<BR/><BR/>If you go beyond two kids...well, that's just wrong. God only gave you two hands to hold over their mouths, and two legs to hold them down...How could you do three?<BR/><BR/>Hey, 3000 miles away in NH were about 90 minutes of thunder showers, so playgroup would have been inside today, Wii not included.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07230257129182556308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-12508652577189138032008-08-10T19:14:00.000-07:002008-08-10T19:14:00.000-07:00What an amazing post Sarah. Going from 0 to 1 is -...What an amazing post Sarah. Going from 0 to 1 is - from what I hear - the most shocking of parents transitions. Heck, you were there as I cried my way through the first 3 months with a baby who wouldn't sit, wouldn't stand, wouldn't do yoga, wouldn't do massage... and now sometimes he's even a cool kid to hang out with. At least now we know - if our second ones are as bad as our first - at least it WILL end, and life WILL get better. I don't think we knew that the first time around! Great post, I totally agree - babies grow into kids, who grow into families, and thats what you are building... not just another baby to add to your complicated life!Lindsay Margenauhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14691275093766621070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-7393073055463234672008-08-10T19:00:00.000-07:002008-08-10T19:00:00.000-07:00past life therapy offer(s) a rapid method of treat...past life therapy offer(s) a rapid method of treating psychiatric symptoms, symptoms that had previously taken many months or years of costly therapy to alleviate…Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-25456131060043319992008-08-10T17:15:00.000-07:002008-08-10T17:15:00.000-07:00Such an excellent post. I didn't immediately fall...Such an excellent post. I didn't immediately fall for Charlie either. I mean, I loved him on an intellectual level, but like you said, once I got to know him and did fall in love with him it was the most intense emotion I have ever experienced. Watching him get a heel stick as a newborn was nothing. Watching him get blood drawn in the ER at 13 months shook me absolutely to my core with empathy. It was as if we were connected.<BR/><BR/>There were many days in the beginning that I sobbed in the car when I picked Ryan up from work during Charlie's first months. You were right on about the "can't go backness of it all". That was exactly what was so overwhelming for me.<BR/><BR/>And I am also not a baby person. There were fun moments during infancy, but they do not even come close to how much fun we are having now. I am so looking forward to the growing up years and the Christmasses home from college, just like you said.<BR/><BR/>I identified with so much of this post. Thank you. I hope you find some solace with your therapist.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05156777853779141522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-64168321200013651412008-08-10T16:31:00.000-07:002008-08-10T16:31:00.000-07:00I got knocked up knowing that I hate the babyhood ...I got knocked up knowing that I hate the babyhood phase. And you know, I still do. But the cool thing is, I know this part is finite and that at the end of it I have a two year old to look foward to. Not that there aren't great moments with the babies but for me, it's mostly a lot of worry and weariness. But this time around I don't think I'm a horrible person for feeling this way. I just know that it's freaking hard and it will get easier. And this is coming from someone with TWINS so you will do fine. one more thing, Zoloft immediately did help.<BR/><BR/>Are you gonna call me sometime or what?BabyonBoredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05988664515214410933noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-87012911187341092672008-08-10T16:27:00.000-07:002008-08-10T16:27:00.000-07:00One more thing-- Joan Crawford line-- hilarious! ...One more thing-- Joan Crawford line-- hilarious! I always want to teach Harry to say, "I'm not mad at you, Helga, I'm mad at the dirt," but I know how weird that is.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07270389106604867450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-44778506428467114352008-08-10T16:26:00.000-07:002008-08-10T16:26:00.000-07:00Oh my gosh-- I love this post-- especially the par...Oh my gosh-- I love this post-- especially the part about forming an identity as a mother-- so well written.<BR/><BR/>It really does suck sometimes having an infant and a toddler-- no reason to sugar coat things-- but everything you said about them growing together and having each other is right on.<BR/><BR/>Also, last week I called Ben and told him he had to come home because I quit-- and for about 5 minutes I meant it. So, if you wind up crying in the bath tub once in awhile, that's okay, too.<BR/><BR/>Good luck on your quest to give E a sibling-- and have fun along the way :)Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07270389106604867450noreply@blogger.com