tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post8169564585906212231..comments2023-12-15T07:12:53.938-08:00Comments on Mama Sarahndipity: What NOT to Call My Child...sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01387145957769474838noreply@blogger.comBlogger16125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-33967915746187922062010-08-22T20:07:34.736-07:002010-08-22T20:07:34.736-07:00Jerk.{Her, not you.}
Also, how do people expect ch...Jerk.{Her, not you.}<br />Also, how do people expect children to know how to act if we don't take them, well, you know, to public places?<br />These are the same people who gripe about disrespectful teenagers ... probably the very ones who got left at home when mom and dad went down the street for coffee or to the grocery store. Just sayin'.Hyacynthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08838590548747956315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-9144523242146409932010-08-21T14:36:58.830-07:002010-08-21T14:36:58.830-07:00after reading some of the comments, I'm just w...after reading some of the comments, I'm just wondering why people seem to think it would be safer to allow a hypothetically unsupervised child to run free in a parking lot (where I'm assuming on occasion there are MOVING CARS) than safe in a small coffee shop while the parent was located? Personally, if any of my children were lost and approaching a Starbucks, I would hope that they were let in where they could sit down until I found them rather than left ouside where they could easily wander into the street or be hit by a car pulling out. My kids run ahead of me all the time (again within my sight) and I am fine when they run INTO the store, but if they run OUT, they get read the riot act.lonek8https://www.blogger.com/profile/09217503506508289374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-79842596057748927492010-08-21T14:30:29.261-07:002010-08-21T14:30:29.261-07:00wow. When I am unsure if a baby is a boy or girl ...wow. When I am unsure if a baby is a boy or girl (can pretty much tell by the time they're 1, no?) I always just say "e" and let the he/she be implied. I know tricky. And vaguely cockney, which is always fun.<br /><br />That woman was an asshole, plain and simple. And you are completely right about some people not thinking children are equal or even human sometimes. When I was 6 and just learning to answer the phone properly a woman called my mother. As I had been instructed I asked "who may I ask is calling?" She refused to answer, confusing me and making me cry. As I recall, my father spoke rather harshly to her about it, but she continued to refuse to answer even the most simple civilized question from me for the next ten years. eventually my mom told me i could just hang up on her if she refused to tell me who was calling (my mom didn't like her anyway), and I can say with great relish that telling her to shove it (in the most polite manner of course) felt really awesome.<br /><br />I'm sure I would have done exactly as you did in the situation, but I confess I wish you had found a way to spill the chocolate milk on her.lonek8https://www.blogger.com/profile/09217503506508289374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-16493725780004858892010-08-21T08:16:16.047-07:002010-08-21T08:16:16.047-07:00If I saw a small child running towards a business,...If I saw a small child running towards a business, my first thought would have been "Is this kid in trouble? Let me open the door and find out." Because it's not always easy to tell a kid running in glee from a kid running in terror in a split second. She could have opened the door and asked him where his mother was, at the least.Major Bedheadhttp://majorbedhead.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-71653102896163216182010-08-19T16:44:48.107-07:002010-08-19T16:44:48.107-07:00I had to really process this again as well as &quo...I had to really process this again as well as "Anonymous"- comments. I have sometimes entered places like Starbucks and seen a young child trying to get "out" and have held the door shut or stood in front of the opening until I have seen the adult with the child -- but it would have NEVER occurred to me to keep a child from coming IN to a place like Starbucks -- I really can't imagine what she might have been thinking -- I think that if I had seen a child by himself/herself I might have opened the door and asked where mommy or daddy was if I didn't immediately see an adult who seemed to be related -- but--- oh my gosh --- IT??????gringanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-90493846226926812852010-08-19T12:52:49.258-07:002010-08-19T12:52:49.258-07:00At that point, I would have let Jack run wild righ...At that point, I would have let Jack run wild right next to her table and encouraged all the bad behavior I usually punish for. That would have served her right. :)Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465194403058080094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-49160204819324505942010-08-19T12:24:20.066-07:002010-08-19T12:24:20.066-07:00I'm actually speechless! I can't believe ...I'm actually speechless! I can't believe the nerve of some people.I keep trying to picture what I would have said to her had it happened to me and my son and I think I would have been shocked into silence. It's not as if Ethan disrupted her and her morning coffee.Triciahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09360736067937878702noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-37616919334819710582010-08-19T12:05:55.278-07:002010-08-19T12:05:55.278-07:00Fair enough, anonymous & if he'd been out ...Fair enough, anonymous & if he'd been out of my sight or I'd let him run wild and disruptive, your what-if would make sense and I'd be open to some constructive criticism--I'm far from a perfect parent. <br /><br />But your "what if" didn't seem to take into account most of the details I provided. And, calling my child "it" is just not excusable in my mind, regardless of what the woman at the door, or you, think of my parenting. I'd imagine we could agree on that. :-)sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01387145957769474838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-59270849760962880642010-08-19T11:59:49.403-07:002010-08-19T11:59:49.403-07:00I'm sorry...I was offering that as a what-if s...I'm sorry...I was offering that as a what-if scenario but it was received pretty much the way I anticipated.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-7286337608960118622010-08-19T10:18:43.211-07:002010-08-19T10:18:43.211-07:00Anonymous, please consider re-reading my post a li...Anonymous, please consider re-reading my post a little bit more carefully before you criticize my parenting. Ethan was never for a second out of my sight--he was at most 4-5 preschooler paces ahead of me. There was no issue of me being able to "locate him" I knew where he was at all times and he was within my sight the entire time. <br /><br />That is, of course, how I could see the stranger barring him from entering the store, not, as you somehow concluded, opening the door and letting him in. There was no "wandering in" without me. <br /><br />I appreciate your attempt at sharing the other side of the story with me, but your facts are a bit off.sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01387145957769474838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-46341390268490978782010-08-19T10:11:32.130-07:002010-08-19T10:11:32.130-07:00While this woman certainly didn't take the mos...While this woman certainly didn't take the most tactful approach, I can't help but picture the other side of this story...Ethan did get out of your sight briefly and you couldn't locate him quickly enough because a helpful adult opened the Starbucks door and he wandered in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-28317481081537889592010-08-19T08:08:10.176-07:002010-08-19T08:08:10.176-07:00I am absolutely blown away.
And now my blood is b...I am absolutely blown away. <br />And now my blood is boiling for you! <br />That's just ridiculous. I think there are so many people who still just do not understand that children are little PEOPLE. PEOPLE. Again, PEOPLE.Corinne Cunninghamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07604810312185816792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-14065172023991481182010-08-19T06:08:12.899-07:002010-08-19T06:08:12.899-07:00Why do I picture this cow as wearing a full length...Why do I picture this cow as wearing a full length fur coat and carrying a little dog under her arm?<br /><br />What a JERK! I would have been SO ANGRY. But I also would have limited my reaction to dirty looks, like you did.<br /><br />I've had some rude encounters myself and it helps me to imagine they are cranky because they have fecal incontinence.<br /><br />Would it be over the top for you to teach Ethan to open the door with a bow and a tip of the hat and to say "After you, Madam" in case you run into her again?Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05156777853779141522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-19005691265650679702010-08-19T05:53:07.559-07:002010-08-19T05:53:07.559-07:00I blame some of the hate on the Child-Free Movemen...I blame some of the hate on the Child-Free Movement: adults who are proud of their decision to not have kids, but 90% of whom look down on parents (often called "breeders") and their offspring with dirision.<br /><br />Then again, this isn't anything new. "Children should be seen and not heard," after all. And God forbid you ever catch them *playing* or having a good time (the horror!!!1).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-48075302362371021212010-08-19T04:26:40.492-07:002010-08-19T04:26:40.492-07:00Oh my goodness! It? The mother?? That's tot...Oh my goodness! It? The mother?? That's totally freaking nuts.<br /><br />Harry was running way ahead of me to my gym's playground the other day, and an older lady stopped walking and stood near him until jack and I caught up. She asked me if he as "mine." When I said yes and was about to thank her unnecessarily for watching out for him (I could see him the whole time), she said something snarky about my letting him run wild.<br /><br />WTF is up with people butting in?Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07270389106604867450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-30619990074405038502010-08-18T21:56:25.573-07:002010-08-18T21:56:25.573-07:00I'm sorry that happened to you. People are ass...I'm sorry that happened to you. People are assholes.<br /><br />When you can't come up with a clever retort quickly you can always fall back on, "Shut your whore mouth." Say it in french or italian to add flare ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com