tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post8332457808247791292..comments2023-12-15T07:12:53.938-08:00Comments on Mama Sarahndipity: You Know What I Can't Stand?sarahhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01387145957769474838noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-39765886173717673072009-11-08T21:49:55.407-08:002009-11-08T21:49:55.407-08:00I did not have a c-section. But I am lucky my son ...I did not have a c-section. But I am lucky my son is as healthy as he is because the doctor SHOULD have performed one. He had shoulder dysplacia (sic?) and the cord wrapped twice around his neck. By the time they got him out ( by vacuum extraction) his hands, arms, feet and lower legs were blue.<br />I did not breast feed after two weeks by choice. I did co-sleep most of the time. Being a mother and having a baby are personal things that we all must decide how to do in a manner which is best for us on our own. Don't let anyone make you feel bad about anything you choose. EVER. You aren't here to please them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-28790664542214420572009-10-26T16:45:59.048-07:002009-10-26T16:45:59.048-07:00I can't stand the comments about "natural...I can't stand the comments about "natural" vs c-section. Natural does NOT equal vaginal!!! These women are probably the same ones who brag about "surviving" a 72-hr labor. Please.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-17031657746356617842009-10-20T08:30:17.616-07:002009-10-20T08:30:17.616-07:00I feel the same way! I wanted a vaginal birth but ...I feel the same way! I wanted a vaginal birth but after pushing for 3 hours and trying the vacumn, the only way to get the baby out was C-Section. The goal is to have a healthy baby and mommy so it does not matter how the baby got out.CMAAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05062597672091135684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-50985186562586436982009-10-19T12:50:58.670-07:002009-10-19T12:50:58.670-07:00Amen sista! I was unaware of this negativity since...Amen sista! I was unaware of this negativity since I was able to deliver my children vaginally, but I can't imagine why anyone would need to feel guilty or like less of a mother because she had a c-section. And people who would try and make someone feel that way are a waste of time. I do however understand a bit how you feel comparing it to the formula feeding because I have bottle fed my kids and have experienced some of the scorn from that. Good for you for rising above it, and I totally agree with everyone else - you should write the book on it!lonek8https://www.blogger.com/profile/09217503506508289374noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-49701460310588895062009-10-19T12:17:55.204-07:002009-10-19T12:17:55.204-07:00I agree that this is absolutely a book you should ...I agree that this is absolutely a book you should write!<br /><br />I don't have kids but my BFF had 2 c-secs and voiced such discouragement and defeat when she couldn't deliver vaginally. This is one of those things that exist for a reason; better to have a safe, healthy baby than risk it!RoseAnnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15529079118321602705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-55823980625274330032009-10-19T11:19:05.779-07:002009-10-19T11:19:05.779-07:00I completely agree with you. I had my heart set o...I completely agree with you. I had my heart set on having a "natural" delivery with no drugs. I was convinced that I could do it. What I never thought about was that I would have to have an emergency c-section. The thought had never crossed my mind. I was devastated and terrified when the ob told me they were wheeling me into the operating room immediately because the baby was breach and I was already very far into labor. <br />I was never prepared for how upset I would feel about the fact that I didn't get to have a "natural" labor. I also had no clue how painful and difficult recovering from a c-section while trying to care for and nurse a new born would be. Some people seem to think that c-sections are the easy way out, but as a person who went through labor and then had to deal with the pain of recovery after the surgery I completely disagree. <br /><br />Way to go on this post. It made me feel better about my labor and birth experience.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-35988737921968653142009-10-17T15:46:40.341-07:002009-10-17T15:46:40.341-07:00Go write a book !!
The thing is, they don't g...Go write a book !!<br /><br />The thing is, they don't give awards on the way out of the hospital on whether or not it was a "natural", no epi, c-section etc.ananoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-68078163262940352772009-10-17T12:34:35.699-07:002009-10-17T12:34:35.699-07:00I think you've found your book subject my dear...I think you've found your book subject my dear! Now, make it happen!<br /><br />I get so pissed at people who get all judgey about c/s or, for that matter, women who push back against the wishes of their doctors when they clearly need to take all info into account. There are some births that are not going to happen vaginally no matter how hard they try. And the alternative is death, for mom or baby.<br /><br />Seriously, HOW the baby gets here doesn't matter. It's that the baby gets here safe and sound that matters. When you child is graduating from college, no one is going to lean over and ask you how he was born. It's just insane how some women are always trying to feel superior to others. I actually wanted a c/s with Jack and my doctor vetoed my request!Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09465194403058080094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-77194180563500134802009-10-17T10:23:53.617-07:002009-10-17T10:23:53.617-07:00As a mom who has had 3 c-sections I totally unders...As a mom who has had 3 c-sections I totally understand where you come from. I felt the same way after I had my first one. Like I was jipped out of the "whole" birth experience. My 1st c-section wasn't a planned one, I debated a VBAC for the second, but she was breech, and being that they installed a zipper....the 3rd was sectioned out too. :)<br /><br />I think it would be a great idea to write a book about this. There is sure to be a doctor or 2 or more that would give you the medical info and you can write about your experience and find other mothers that have had them too so you can get them to tell about their experience too. Looks like you have 10 or so here already. <br /><br />Thanks for voicing what we all feel.sclangshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08575305780961332775noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-79849571643753870792009-10-17T09:45:14.926-07:002009-10-17T09:45:14.926-07:00Definitely a book! You even have a writing space ...Definitely a book! You even have a writing space now! Dooooo it!<br /><br />You're totally right-- healthy mom, healthy baby is the only thing that matters. By the end of nine months I just want that baby OUT and I don't care which way they do it!<br /><br />I don't need my birth experience to provide some transendent womanly experience. It's the entire pregnancy--your body producing another HUMAN--that is the miracle, not the birth.Beccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05156777853779141522noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-17221432881927757312009-10-17T07:48:28.710-07:002009-10-17T07:48:28.710-07:00Hey girl.. and you have said this may be your outl...Hey girl.. and you have said this may be your outlet for your first book... There is def a market out there as C-secs are the most often performed surgery in the US and there is a big gap in info.. and esp for those women who choose csecs.Emihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15282933151450407557noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-11875853870558302592009-10-17T07:20:41.229-07:002009-10-17T07:20:41.229-07:00This is all so true. I find that the "holisti...This is all so true. I find that the "holistic" parenting/birthing community has proven to be one of the most judgmental narrow-minded groups of people I've ever met around this subjectp--and weaning and all sorts of other things!KMWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03345570249725222608noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-21316907489587946542009-10-17T06:34:24.547-07:002009-10-17T06:34:24.547-07:00thank you for writing this post. I have had one c/...thank you for writing this post. I have had one c/s and about to have another come January. It's not what I planned but it was best for my daughter. I can't begin to tell you how many people asked why, why didn't I try to have her natural, etc. I had two doctor's tell me to go with the c/s route and I went with their expert opinion. I hated the questions from others and still do! Again, thank you for writing this post!Darlenenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-85096046297834313302009-10-16T21:34:55.559-07:002009-10-16T21:34:55.559-07:00I am so happy to read this post. I had an emergen...I am so happy to read this post. I had an emergency C-section and was distraught over it. I completely agree with you 100% and have so walked that lonely road. And it sucks.Venti Vixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07185215356308673322noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-6353833863465978812009-10-16T20:52:18.402-07:002009-10-16T20:52:18.402-07:00I think there are only a few people who want a c-s...I think there are only a few people who want a c-section the first time, and most of them, are silly because they are afraid of the pain. But, many of us have them and then agonize over what to do next time. I think doctors are getting a bad rap these days, and that is why you are seeing more and more midwives. But I love my doctor and in no way has she pushed for a c-section this time. She has even shared successful VBAC stories with me.AJU5's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05039236630636069326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-12983947369496063902009-10-16T20:42:33.446-07:002009-10-16T20:42:33.446-07:00I am right there with you. I had an unplanned c-s...I am right there with you. I had an unplanned c-section with baby #1 and have thought about doing VBAC with baby #2. Now that the "big day" is approaching I have pretty much decided that another c-section is the right decision for me. (Just based on research, and my now fear of an unsuccessful VBAC and that I feel my birth will be similar this time around to last time). C-section is the right birth plan for me, and I don't care what anyone else thinks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-83172782166648006002009-10-16T20:14:26.599-07:002009-10-16T20:14:26.599-07:00Well you know that I'm right with you! Two C-...Well you know that I'm right with you! Two C-sections and I think the results can stand up to any scrutiny. I think you'll agree.<br />:-)gringanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-16522677341502885952009-10-16T19:58:10.981-07:002009-10-16T19:58:10.981-07:00I had two c/s and I don't care what anyone thi...I had two c/s and I don't care what anyone thinks about it. I have healthy daughters and that trumps public opinion. Finding a way to support other moms that have c/s is a noble thing to do.Jennifernoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-27631106242102944302009-10-16T19:50:05.618-07:002009-10-16T19:50:05.618-07:00That's it! That's the book you need to wr...That's it! That's the book you need to write!Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07270389106604867450noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-22151779.post-90494130189984177242009-10-16T19:30:01.935-07:002009-10-16T19:30:01.935-07:00excellent excellent post. Oh and I am a c-sec vet...excellent excellent post. Oh and I am a c-sec veteran who breastfed for forever, sorta co-slept and is definitely AP. WE DO EXIST WORLD!Hey Youhttp://www.thehuckablog.comnoreply@blogger.com